Sunday, February 3, 2013

FAMILY VIOLENCE: Fight back, abused woman urged by Madhubala Hindi TV Serial


FAMILY VIOLENCE: Fight back, abused woman urged by Madhubala Hindi TV Serial

Thakur Ranjit Singh

In light of news of institutionalized abuse of women in India and recent rape and murder case, it is nice to see Bollywood reacting to this situation, and incorporating abuse of women in TV serials. One such is Madhubala-Ek Isk ek Junoon. (Google to search and watch). As it is easier to get to many readers via the channel of Bollywood, I am using this TV serial, Madhubala to pass this important message on FAMILY VIOLENCE, which is also very prevalent India, in Indian Diaspora in general and Indo Fijian Diaspora in particular across the world, including my New Zealand.

Madhubala -Ek Ishq Ek Junoon: Hindi TV serial that has seriously addressed the issue of  FAMILY VIOLENCE and removed the myth of male-superiority and outdated concept of Pati Parmeshwar-husband as Gods.
In this episode of 30th January, 2013, the dialogue and the message stood up strongly in support of women’s efforts to fight back.  Balraj Chaudhry (Ballu), an abusive husband of Padmini (Paddo) holds her family hostage through his goons and was about to shoot Madhubala, daughter of Paddo and Chaudhry. Paddo ends up shooting and killing  her husband.  She is brought to court and there are calls from prosecution to hang her.

When a Rakshas (demon, devil) father ( Balraj Chaudhry) holds his daughter, Madhubala, a hostage and threatens to kill her, what does a mother do? She becomes Durga, the destroyer and kills the Rakshas. There is urge for woman to take their rightful place in society to fight injustice and abuse.
In the court, Padmini says that if the law wants to hang her, so be it, as she deserves it! She says..BUT it should NOT be for killing Ballu ..she  should be hanged for tolerating all of his torture, insults and abuse ..  ..for not hitting him back for the slaps and fists, for not opposing violence.. for never retaliating, for tolerating silently an as an ideal Hindu wife for ego, community respect, false pride and honour of a villainous husband! She says she should be punished for running away..for falling weak.. when Ballu threatened her unborn baby. She says...she will go in peace....by killing the Rakshas - and ending torture for the family--

Prosecution lawyer picks on the word ‘Rakshas’ and says ...in a country where husbands are called  ... ‘Pati Parmeshwar’ (Husband supreme, God), she insulted her Pati Parmeshwar.. That is when Madhu takes over and renders a powerful dialogue that should become an example in all cases of family violence and abusive husbands where women have said ....enough is enough, and strike back.

Madhubala in docks- those desirous of being addressed as Pati Parmeshwar ( Husband superior as God) should try to become a Pati (husband) FIRST.Why do those behaving like monsters want to be treated as Gods? Women need to question this outdated and undeserving honour for abusive men.
Madhu says that those who are desirous of being addressed as Pati Parmeshwar need to be a Pati or husband FIRST. If you knew what this (Ballu) Rakshas did, you would stop praying to Parmeshwar (God). Madhu takes stand and defines ‘Parmeshwar. It is a force and power that nurtures, protects and keeps one alive. However, a person who wants to destroy, who wants to kill his wife and daughter and becomes a danger for his own children cannot be a ‘Parmeshwar’. He is a ‘Rakshas’ a demon, and a devil! She says there are many in our society who harbour the same undeserving superiority thoughts for a male.

An ugly picture? That is the face that some abusive men give to their wives and other women.. It is time women stood up against this abuse and seek help in the least and expose those Rakshas in their homes and societies.

When a boy is born in a family, they regard a Gods Avtar (incarnation) is born, and we are told a boy is superior to a girl.. The boy is told you are our son, an incarnation of God and Chirag or light and candle of the family. Then, one day the internal flame of this candle burns the house, starts burning the ladies in dark street corners, and burns beauty of women with acids.

They rape women in a moving bus and kill them. On many occasions, female babies are killed in their mother’s womb through foeticide! These are the examples of the supposed guardians, and saviors of our society- the Parmeshwar, the God. Such men should be publicly shot dead on crossroads or hung!

It is time for women to stand up for the protection of their families and society where Raksahs rule now. and FIGHT BACK
She asks all... .why girls are weak. .why they are idols of sacrifices? From school fees to clothes for festivals, they are the ones who have to sacrifice for their brothers. Why cannot boys and brothers be asked to sacrifice for their sisters? Why – because they TOLERATE.. they ENDURE and DO NOT SLAP BACK! She says.. that if the person who handles the home goes off the track..there will be no home left, and no world..!

She says. .no matter how big a man becomes. .he is woman born, born from the womb of a woman, and hope time does not come when our wombs become wayward and go on strike.. there won’t be a world left..! She says a woman breastfeeds the child with milk that develops bones. When that baby grows up as a man that same Rakshas, that demon beats up his wife from the same bones, and pays back by breaking another woman’s bones and teeth? Imagine what will happen if women stop feeding these Rakshas? She says a man who is born of a woman insults and defames his mother by hurting another woman.

AT 11 WEEKS, THE BABY STATED KICKING: AT 22 WEEKS SO DID THE FATHER: A man who is born of a woman insults and defames his mother by hurting another woman. Shame on men who insult their mother.
Madhu says the woman standing in front, her mother, is not only her mother, but a lady who has endured such thoughts of a husband who was an epitome of a Rakshas and she suffered a lot under the false sham of an ideal Hindu wife. If today she was attacked, she may have endured that as well. But when she picked up the gun to kill Balraj Chaudhry, it was to protect her child.., she reached a breaking point of endurance and reacted. It was overlooked and ignored, that a woman is not only just a Janani who gives birth. But to protect her children, she can also become a Durga Avtar to kill the Rakshas. She has spent her life to raise me, and today when she saw danger, she reacted to protect me. So, for me, she is my Parmeshwar, God. And today I am proud of her what she did to execute her Rakshas husband to protect her family.

She tells all the women in the court that if their husbands are abusive and Rakshas like Balraj Chaudhry, they should do what her mother did – FIGHT BACK.

Paddo tells all women to stand up and fight back. She urges abused women to reply and retaliate to the first slap, first swear and first abuse so that men cannot gain courage to stand up for second round of abuse. Otherwise the sin, abuse and injustice will grow to such an extent that they will take the form of a demon, a Rakshas. That is why women should fight back- for her children, for her family and for her society. Stand up for your family ..For their kids and for society! Act before the man becomes a demon and a Rakshas.

Women in Indian, especially Hindu societies are regarded as "Shakti" -the strength and source of power.. It is time women stopped being a "bechari" or item of pity, and assumed the power and strength they are bestowed in mythologies,  and stand up to fight demons, devils and Rakshas in homes and community, whenever injustice on women is commuted.
THIS IS A STRONG MESSAGE to Indian and Hindu ladies- you have attended enough rituals, hawans, Mata’s Jagran, Hindu conferences, seminars, workshops, Navratam Garba and rituals singing power and praises of various Goddesses. You have been doing that always that never improved your well being and status in society. Please step back, assume the role of Durga and Kali and FIGHT BACK for yourself, your family and society. Especially fight for your sisters in India.

There have been too much pooja and meaningless rituals. Now women have to take action and fight an unjust system – for themselves here as well in societies elsewhere on family violence. Gone are the days of shouting..”bachao.. bachao..’ (Help, save, save) and that of Pati Parmeshwar-husband the God, if he is a demon and Rakshas. As told by Paddo in “Madhubala”, it is time for abused women to stand up and fight back. That may just mean telling the world about your problems and exposing the Rakshas in your home and society. AND ACCEPTING THE FACT THAT WE HAVE A PROBLEM OF FAMILY VIOLENCE, AND TALKING ABOUT IS.

A face of despair and pain. It is time women stood up to fight  against the injustice of FAMILY VIOLENCE. There is need to talk about it. Padmini executed her abusive husband to save her daughter and family. THE LEAST YOU COULD DO IS TO SEEK HELP AND EXPOSE RAKSHAS IN YOUR FAMILY.
So join your brother Thakur, and tell the Indian High Commissioner and his elite cocktail circuit, to tell New Delhi and India to change their mindset and thinking about status of women in India. Now the Durga and Kali will assume their mythological power and will FIGHT BACK. JAI MATA DI- RISE TO REMOVE INJUSTICE.

[E-mail: thakurji@xtra.co.nz